Ideally, you and your partner will continue to grow together as time goes on. But that isn’t always the case. Some people change and find out they’ve outgrown their partner or the relationship. Divorce attorney Melissa Fecak, Esq. tells Bustle that she sees this a lot with older couples who are retired. “When they were working, the differences that developed were harder to detect,” she says. “Now that the distractions from the relationship are no longer present, it becomes more apparent that they don’t have as much in common as they once thought or they changed their opinions on how they want to handle things moving forward.” Change is inevitable. If both partners aren’t changing and moving forward in the same direction, it’s not going to work.
It’s important to pay close attention to these relationship killers because they start off pretty subtly. Chances are, you won’t even realize these are doing any harm until you find yourself with nothing but negative feelings toward your partner. Being mindful of these subtle things can help you avoid divorce.
